The week of Halloween we talked about transitioning into marriage.. This is something that i don't have direct experience in but i have seen many times.
My oldest sister got married when i was 5 years old, so from an early age i saw her married and i thought everything was good with her, but i soon would find out i was naive to think that adjustment would be easy.
I had always assumed that hey, you love each other everything will work out perfectly; but i've learned that things are not as they seem
There are SO many things that you have to adjust too. For me personally, i have three sisters... i will have to live with a boy. Who may not always put the toilet seat down and he may be dirty that will take time to adjust too.
I also think you have to adjust to being with someone of the opposite gender all the time and all of the boundaries that all the sudden break. This will take lots of talking and communicating to work through.
I took a marriage class last semester and we talked about the fact that the first year of marriage is the hardest. There are so many things that change and that you have to work through. When i first heard that i thought they were kidding, what about the honeymoon stage? Doesn't that last?
It makes sense though, you can do all you want to prepare yourself for marriage and for those changes but i feel like until you are in the situation and doing it, you can't ever be fully prepared.
One thing that i thought a lot about this week is the splitting of holidays and how our different family dynamics will apply in our new lives. There are so many traditions and things in my family that i would never want to get rid of and i think it would be hard for me to miss certain holidays with my family. But then i realized; if you truly love someone would you not do everything for them? Of course you would.
A little sacrifice here and there is what makes marriage work.
I know transitioning into marriage will not be easy but i know it will be worth it.
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